The DRM DOzen
The DRM DOzen

Here we all are in the above photo, except that Louisa was taking the picture and she took the best one so she isn’t in it (sorry, Louisa), David had temporarily disappeared. From L to R Camilla, Ian, Penny, Steve, Hervé, Clare, Genie, Maria, Abbe, Xa, Jennie, Christine and finally Karen is not in the picture but joining us in 2019.


This week

The DRM Dozen


Maria’s Midweek Mindfulness 


the Wednesday Whisper

Watch out world

Monday was the first meeting of the twelve DRM team members embarking on the one year training. We’re going to create something very special and I am looking forward to 2019 as I concentrate on the DRM Dozen and the Dartmoor DRM crew. I can’t think of a better way to spend next year. Watch this space.

Over the years I have been asked to provide training at this level and I have always resisted until now because I wanted to make sure that I was ready to make this training outstanding. I needed to be absolutely sure that I am living it at my core.

That doesn’t mean that I constantly use the DRM and am such a skilful communicator that everyone around me miraculously feels heard and understood by me.

Oh no, far from it. It means that I am completely comfortable being the full force of me and that on the many occasions when I get it wrong because I can be an insensitive idiot, I am able to take the full force of another person being them. So last week when my friend Paul was annoying me in a circle I was running, I was able to say, ‘Paul you’re really pissing me off’ and he was able to take the piss out of me while amazed DRM Facilitators in Dartmoor prison looked on. ‘That’, I said, ‘is what the DRM is about. We use nonviolent language to build the closeness to be able to get to shorthand with each other and not be offended’. So ‘piss off’ become an understood shorthand for ‘I notice that I’m going past what I can tolerate, could you help me out by reducing the number words you’re using right now until I can recover myself?

I’m looking forward to 12 people being able to tell me to piss off and me being able to tell them to shove it!

Maria’s Midweek Mindfulness

I realise that I don’t want to be anywhere where I cannot be the full force of me.

The Wednesday Whisper

When have you had to reduce, minimise or suppress the full force of you?


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